What would you do? I really need advice... =[?

So you met a boy/girl and you were talking for a few weeks when you lied about something very serious. You did it mainly cause you thought he/she wouldn't accept you. 11 months down the road you two are dating and are very much in love.


If the lie was ever told to him/her the relationship would surely be over. But the lie is keeping you awake at night, and making you very depressed, but without him/her you wouldn't want to continue living.





What would you do?


Tell him/her the truth??


Or go on living the lie?What would you do? I really need advice... =[?
Oh gosh.





That's really tough.





It kind of depends on what the lie is about. Are you absolutely positive the relationship would be over if it was told?





does this lie come up often in conversation? Do you have to continue lying?





If it is really tearing you apart, the best thing you can do is to tell the truth. Then you have to respect your significant other to make a decision that is right for them. I know you love them, which is why they deserve to know only truths about you, and which is why you need to respect what they want to do with the information regardless of how it affects you.





And I would think that if this person truly loves you, they will be willing to work with you to overcome whatever this truth is. They might be angry at first, mainly because you've kept up the lie for so long, so let them be angry. Don't downplay their emotions. But after the anger wears off, if they really love you, they'll realize that you're worth the effort.





I truly hope that everything works out for you. Do not lose hope. Realize that the present isn't permanent, you can always better your situation. You just can't ever, ever give up.What would you do? I really need advice... =[?
You need to tell the truth and then to damage control. Lead up to it by being open and showing them how upset you are, explain your reasons, and ask for forgiveness. Just think... is it something that would stay a secret forever? or would they eventually find out? I mean I don't know because I don't know the lie but I was on the other side of something similar. I was lied to and it was REALLY bad and I didn't find out until much later, and we almost broke up. we are still together 2 years later though, and they didn't think I'd ever stay. It was super complicated but I could help more if you want to email me.
Is the lie that you told adversely affecting the person that you told it to? Are you lying about not having a disease, any children, not being married or being a drug dealer? If this lie is not life threatening to you or anyone else, don't say anything at all. If the person ever brings it up first, tell them that you lied, you're sorry and will never do it again.
You are not being true to this ';person.';


I'm guessing it's a girl because if it was a guy you would just say it right?


Anyway, the lie is pulling you apart from her, whether you realize it or not.


Why let this consume your thoughts?


Why did you lie in the first place?


Think about it.


Tell her.


If she can't accept it then maybe she isn't the right one.


Everything happens for a reason.


This will either bring you closer or pull you apart.


It's time to let the truth out.


If you wait any longer,


It will just be worse later.
if he really loves you, he will accept you, not break up with you. Sure, he probably wont trust you for a while, but you can always earn that back by good behaivor. but why would you wait 11 months??


never go on living the lie


it will eat you alive





who knows, maybe he is keeping something from you as well ;)
honestly.. if its serious, telling it to the person you ';love'; is the right thing to do instead of holding it back.. 11 months is a long time, you cant hold something that major back.. and if this person loves you enough im sure he/she will learn to accept it since its coming from you.. hope i helped xoxo
Tell him the truth cause then you will probably feel guilty and you will be wondering if you will be in the same position now if you would've told him earlier.
tell him the truth





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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090708202853AAv8pVQ
Tell him, if he/she dosen't accept you, it's their fault, they aren't the one for you!